Stop Comparing!
I hate it when people compare. "Why does that person get more than me??", "Why is it she gets special treatment and I don't?", "Why is it that he gets more attention than me?" Especially when they compare and feel jealous over the slightest thing in life. No two human beings are the same. So, how can we compare with our neighbour and feel upset that we didn't get as much blessing as the other person, or be as well-liked as the person next to us??
If we always compare, we will never be happy. This is of course not saying that we live in isolation from others. It simply means we shouldn't base our happiness on how much we have received or gotten in relation to what others have gotten. We will just be a very miserable person all our lives if we do that!
Does it mean that person has been blessed and you haven't, you would feel that God doesn't love you? Does it mean that some people around you have risen up much faster than you, that you feel that you are bring shortchanged? Does it mean that that person has got many frens around him or her all the time and you don't, you feel that life is unfair to you??
Wake up, pls. And start living your own life.
If we live in a world of comparison, we will never truly be able to fulfill the exact calling of God upon our lives. Because we will never be people who are satisfied and grateful to God for what He has done. We will always be in a mode of dissatisfaction. Always complaining to God in our hearts. Always unhappy because we did not get that 'special encounter' that somebody else got. Always questioning when is it your turn to finally prosper.
Such a person will never rise up. It's harsh reality, but true. There is always a reason why we remain at the level of a normal member and don't breakthrough to become a helper. There is always a reason why we remain a helper and never rise up to be a leader. God needs to deal with that 'something' within us first before promoting us. God wants us to deal and get rid of that 'something' in our hearts. But if we don't see this as a stepping stone and instead as a setback, we will never be able to rise up. Cry all you want. Kick up a fuss all you want. Backslide all you want. It will not happen.
If one really wants to be a leader and do great things for God, stop playing childish games and start working on those 'something' in your life. Stop focusing on small little things and insist on thinking that you are not appreciated or loved as those around you. And stop indulging in wrong thoughts that you are just not as special as the others who are more prominent or rising up faster. Otherwise, you will never see your dream come to pass. This is serious. You may never see your dream come to pass if you don't snap out of that. Now.
When encouragements don't seem to work, sometimes we need to splash the ice cold water onto the faces to force them to see the truth hard in the face.
If we always compare, we will never be happy. This is of course not saying that we live in isolation from others. It simply means we shouldn't base our happiness on how much we have received or gotten in relation to what others have gotten. We will just be a very miserable person all our lives if we do that!
Does it mean that person has been blessed and you haven't, you would feel that God doesn't love you? Does it mean that some people around you have risen up much faster than you, that you feel that you are bring shortchanged? Does it mean that that person has got many frens around him or her all the time and you don't, you feel that life is unfair to you??
Wake up, pls. And start living your own life.
If we live in a world of comparison, we will never truly be able to fulfill the exact calling of God upon our lives. Because we will never be people who are satisfied and grateful to God for what He has done. We will always be in a mode of dissatisfaction. Always complaining to God in our hearts. Always unhappy because we did not get that 'special encounter' that somebody else got. Always questioning when is it your turn to finally prosper.
Such a person will never rise up. It's harsh reality, but true. There is always a reason why we remain at the level of a normal member and don't breakthrough to become a helper. There is always a reason why we remain a helper and never rise up to be a leader. God needs to deal with that 'something' within us first before promoting us. God wants us to deal and get rid of that 'something' in our hearts. But if we don't see this as a stepping stone and instead as a setback, we will never be able to rise up. Cry all you want. Kick up a fuss all you want. Backslide all you want. It will not happen.
If one really wants to be a leader and do great things for God, stop playing childish games and start working on those 'something' in your life. Stop focusing on small little things and insist on thinking that you are not appreciated or loved as those around you. And stop indulging in wrong thoughts that you are just not as special as the others who are more prominent or rising up faster. Otherwise, you will never see your dream come to pass. This is serious. You may never see your dream come to pass if you don't snap out of that. Now.
When encouragements don't seem to work, sometimes we need to splash the ice cold water onto the faces to force them to see the truth hard in the face.
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This is Andy here, wanting to also tag something :)
Ahmm,.. it says here on your unkymood that you are feeling disappointed and blank...hope you are feeling much better now...
Wow, today's blog is really harsh, but true, no matter what we think about it. Discipline of the flesh is like being scourged. It is really painful and we dun like it at all.
It is really human to compare. I also find that a lot of times, no matter how well meaning I try to be, I will still end up comparing. Maybe it is because I want to see if I have maximised the use of resources that I have sowed. But the feeling is terrible! cause comparing makes no room for satisfaction in our lives.
The Spirit of Saul is jealousy and it is a form of bondage to unthankfulness in our lives.
Thanks for sharing, Sister Klessis :)
well, do u agree that sometimes nice words and constant encouragement loses its effect after some time?
Sometimes, hard words are necessary in order to get the message across..
Well, i'm just blogging some reflections and how I feel.. :)
But because you love someone, you have to be harsh.
Sister Selena is very strict with the people closest to her. She tells us that she can choose not to care if she doesn't want us to change, but she chooses to put the relationship to the test each time she disciples.
It does not feel good at all though... :)